Before the mother of the groom wedding speech, you need to be aware of some things. I am going to share useful tips, ideas which are very helpful if you take them into consideration. Obviously, I need everyone to understand that there aren’t so-called “fixed rules”. All the rules of the groom’s mother speech are those of common sense and natural things. Then, of course, there is a certain structure and style for such a speech and you can’t ignore those. Other than that – everything is flexible. Find HERE 25 Groom’s Mother Speech Examples
How to go about the mother of the groom speech structure
If you want to have a great structure for the wedding speech, then you need to consider how to make it as simple as possible. Firstly, you need to introduce the speech.The introduction is an important part, because it will keep the eyes fixed on you. If you fail to make it interesting enough, then it’s problematic due to boredom induced in the guests.
Then, after that part, you need to speak about your son. Of course, there are certain limits to that – you can’t write him a business profile and you can’t talk about him in a way that you sound as a marketing agent. It is not your son’s curriculum, so you need to leave unnecessary details out. You can’t talk about your son too much, because it’s not about exaggerating and furthermore – the bride is there too.
After speaking about the groom, you need to speak about your daughter-in-law. You can’t avoid speaking about the bride – especially because you’re the mother of the groom. Ideally, you have a friendship with her and know some basic things about her character, attitude and what matters to her in life. This is useful stuff because you can talk about her based on those things. Of course, you don’t need to keep it in a flattering way, just act normal and speak comfortably.
Then, before you get to propose a groom’s mother toast for the young couple, you can choose from a variety of things. In some cases, the mother of the groom writes a poem and dedicates it to the couple by reciting it or reading it from a paper. Reading from a paper is not always as personal – so you can try learning it (it works better). Another way is talking from a book, but shortly. I mean like you can choose a sentence or paragraph about love, marriage and then talk shortly about it. If you feel like you can do it without hurting your son, you can give some advices to them. Make sure you don’t go for moral lessons and stuff like that. It’s better to keep it to the point and to not give more than necessary.
The last part goes for proposing a toast. I have seen many books and blogs that contain toast proposal texts. Honestly, all of these are good for being documented, but I wouldn’t copy them word by word, not a chance. I would rather make sure I got the point and then write a personal version. Of course, you have the freedom to choose as you like – after all, it’s your speech.
Cell phones, tablets
You might have cell phones, tablets and whatnot. Make sure that the presence of these accessories isn’t noticed at the ceremony. After all, if you take a couple of pictures (not during the speech), it’s okay, but your phone ringing or anything else like that is definitely not good. You should also tell your husband to do the same, because you need to respect the young couple by not being entertained with other things than their presence and happiness. Yes, this is an unwritten rule, but I believe it’s valuable and important.
Match the earrings
Choosing between a pair of earrings or another makes a huge difference. When choosing the earrings, you need to make sure they are elegant enough. Then, it must be a perfect match with the dress and the hair, and your face too. I have seen women who can’t match their jewelry with their faces – and it looks awful. Also, in other cases, when they wear jewelry that doesn’t match the night dress or whatever else they’re wearing, it’s again a mismatch.
Be limited with makeup, yet respectful
Makeup can go exaggeratedly weird if women don’t pay attention to themselves. First of all, you shouldn’t wear any makeup that is more beautiful than that of the bride’s. No offense, but she should remain on the highlight and people should pay more attention to her makeup than yours. Don’t jump into other extremes either – you still need to have beautiful makeup suitable for this event. How to handle this combination and make sure you’re not in any extreme and all is under control?
I recommend speaking with a makeup artist. Not for any other reason, but you can ask some advices and even if you handled your own makeup every time, this time should be handled with more importance. Then, the makeup needs to match as much as the rest of the things do, so keep in mind that you have a certain dress, shoes, accessories, jewelry and whatnot. All of those must match perfectly together.
Your dress should be unique
First of all, a respectful woman is also characterized by choosing the right dress. Then, it’s your son’s wedding, so you need to show him that you are prepared and happy for what is about to happen.
When it comes to choosing your dress, saving money shouldn’t be the main option before your eyes. You should think about something like “what if someone else has the same dress”? While you might find the odds too small, it happened many times at weddings and it wasn’t the most pleasant experience for anyone. You can look around in multiple places, onsite and online too so that you have a variety to choose from. Also make sure that you don’t try a dress that would be worn by some 20 years old girl – you are not a girl anymore. So, you should choosing something sophisticated, yet not exaggerated. It’s important to have a unique dress and it will definitely make you feel a lot better!
Your language within the speech
No mother of the groom speech would go as good or excellent with an improper language. First of all, it’s not all a poem and secondly you can’t make it sound too sophisticated either. You need to go midway between them. In other words, you need a natural language which is elegant enough but still not too sophisticated.
Then, you need to be careful what you choose to say and what you’ll remain silent about. It’s not always a good thing to talk about anything, because you need to make sure that what you are saying doesn’t hurt your son or the bride. There are some circumstances in which your son’s short life story can be included in the speech, but there are cases when it’s too harsh or rough for him to hear something like that. As a mother, you should know what’s better for him and what wouldn’t offend him. If you’re not sure, just ask him before the event comes. It’s not a shame if you keep asking and if you want to make sure you’re on the right track with your mother of the groom speech.
Don’t be afraid to change your speech text several times
Many people assume that a mother of the groom speech is written once and complete, ready to be told in front of the guests and family members. This is lame and it’s not true – reality doesn’t work like that with wedding speeches.
It is very probable that the first version of your speech is only a couple of sentences long or doesn’t even have a full sentence. That is fine, because that is your start, that is where all comes from later. Then, you keep looking at the piece of paper and start thinking about things further on. While you do that, you expand the speech by making it a couple of sentences long. You don’t need to be discouraged when you see that happening. Even if your speech is now very short, it gets longer later.
Then, at a certain point in time, you notice you already have a few paragraphs. Usually, you would go by writing into each structural part of the speech, making sure to cover all that is needed. Obviously, different parts will be with various lengths: the introduction can’t be as long as the part about the bride, etc.
If it occurs to you later that you see 2-3 paragraphs from the written speech text and you don’t like the sound of them and you remove them, it’s a good start. That would mean you’re on your way to correct the speech and make it sound even more professional. Many people are afraid to do that, but it’s nothing to worry about.
When feelings arise and you feel like you’re out of time, don’t panic. Being panicked and assuming you can’t be done in time won’t help you. What you need is a deep breath and focus to write the remaining parts of the speech. After all, if you can speak for just 2-3 minutes, it’s enough especially if the text was written by you.
Meet with friends and keep your daily routine varied
You can’t go on with the mother of the groom speech without having variety in these every day events, the weeks and months before the wedding. Also, your friends will help you, encourage you and provide valuable advices as to how things should be continued.
It is always great if you can present your mother of the groom speech in front of a group of friends. Just ask them to sit on the couch, measure the time it takes for you to speak and listen. Then, all you need to do is ask for their honest points of view, looking forward to correct whatever necessary in order to bring up a quality speech. They won’t hesitate to tell you if you screw things up, so you can actually correct the things you did wrong!